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#1 STEP BACK
If someone sends you mixed signals while dating, take a step back. Mixed signals can be incredibly confusing. You may want to hold onto this person tighter when they pull away and give you less attention, but you should actually do the opposite.
You need to step away and distance yourself from this person to make a statement. It will catch this person’s attention. Distance will also allow you both to take time alone to assess your feelings for each other.
A person who wants a relationship and is sure of where they stand, will usually make their feelings known. You won’t have to guess how they feel. You won’t have to stay up thinking, reading into their actions and everything they say.
Often, when someone you date is unsure of what they want or emotionally unavailable, they will be hot and cold. You may be giddy with all the sweet things they say and do one day, while you hear nothing from them the next.
Hot and cold communication isn’t a good sign. If someone is sending you mixed signals, leaving you confused about how they feel, take a step back.
Get ready to re-evaluate the situation and the dynamic of your relationship with this person. As you step back and give this person less attention, it’ll help you figure out if they are really someone you want in your life.
#2 RE-EVALUATE WHAT YOU WANT
The next step when someone sends you mixed signals is to re-evaluate what you’re looking for. Start asking yourself what you want. Do you want a relationship? Do you want a casual hookup? Does this person add value to your life? Are you compatible with this person? You need to ask yourself these tough questions when someone sends you mixed signals.
If you’re okay with something casual, mixed signals may not be a red flag. However, if you want a relationship, mixed signals should raise some concerns.
If someone can’t communicate their feelings and is unsure of the type of relationship they want with you, then it may be best to step away. If you have been dating someone for a while and want a relationship with them, yet you still constantly wonder where they stand, it may be time to move on.
Determining whether or not to stick it out or move on when someone sends you mixed signals, starts with figuring out what you truly want out of dating.
#3 COMMUNICATE YOUR EXPECTATIONS
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The third step is to communicate your expectations. You’re high value and have a lot to bring to the table. Stop accepting less than what you’re worth.
If someone wants to be with you, they need to be transparent with how they feel and where they stand. Be clear and direct with what you want in terms of relationships and tell them what you value in a significant other.
You may value clear communication and honesty. Tell them this. You shouldn’t have to waste time constantly wondering how someone feels about you. If they still send you mixed signals after communicating your expectations, it may mean you need to step away.
On the other hand, setting clear expectations may push the person you’re dating to start communicating and show how they feel more consistently. Communicating your expectations shows you have self-respect and shows you are willing to walk away from someone who isn’t on the same page as you.
#4 HAVE AN HONEST CONVERSATION WITH THEM
Step four is to have an honest conversation with the person sending you mixed signals. If they’re sending you mixed signals while dating, it may be time to lay it all out there and have an honest talk about how you feel and where you want things to go between you two.
When there is a lack of honesty between the both of you, there leaves a lot of room for assumptions. Assuming how the other person feels. Assuming what the other person wants.
Stop assuming and simply have an honest conversation. Put your feelings out there and hear what they have to say. The worst that can happen is that you lose someone who isn’t ready for something serious.
An honest conversation will save you time and energy spent reading into and attempting to decipher someone’s mixed signals.
#5 EXPLORE OTHER OPTIONS
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When someone sends you mixed signals while dating, it’s okay to explore other options. If someone isn’t ready to commit to you or is unsure about how they feel, there is no need to close yourself off to other people.
Don’t act like someone’s girlfriend if there is no label on the relationship. If this person isn’t sure they want to commit, continue to date.
Go on dates with other people and explore other connections. You aren’t exclusive with this person, so don’t act like it. Until this person can confidently tell you how they feel and their actions and communication are consistent, keep seeing other people.
Who knows, you may find someone even better who is sure of what they want and who doesn’t leave you consistently guessing where they stand.
#6 PRIORITIZE YOURSELF
Next, you need to prioritize yourself. Mixed signals are difficult to figure out. When dating, someone who knows how they feel about you and is ready for something serious, usually makes it clear.
When someone sends you mixed signals while dating, it may mean they need more time to figure out if they want to commit to dating you exclusively.
Instead of holding on tighter and becoming clingy out of fear of losing this person, take a step back. Rather, focus on yourself. There’s nothing to lose when you prioritize your time and focus on becoming the best version of yourself.
If this person isn’t investing in you, invest in yourself instead. You shouldn’t wait around for someone. If this person won’t commit and doesn’t value a relationship with you, someone else will.
Take time for yourself. Independence is attractive. Do what you want when you want, and become the best you that you can be.
Either this person will take notice and decide they want to invest in your relationship and stop sending mixed signals, or you’ll be ready when the next person comes along.
#7 TAKE THEM OFF THE PEDESTAL
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When someone sends you mixed signals while dating, you need to take them off the pedestal. Mixed signals can put you in a constant state of stress. You may overthink and overanalyze this person’s actions and words.
It’s human nature to want what you can’t have. This constant back and forth, hot and cold communication and attention, can make you obsessed. When this happens, you need to step back and bring yourself down to reality.
This person is not once in a lifetime. They’re human. They have flaws. They make mistakes. They’re not your only option. Sure, they may be fun and add value to your life, but you will come across tons of other people that will do the same.
A relationship with this person isn’t the end all be all. There are other people you can form connections with or have a relationship with if things don’t work out with this person.
You may like them, but every potential partner will have flaws. Take them off the pedestal. Start acting like you’re the prize. Just because you like this person, doesn’t mean you can excuse their confusing and inconsistent behavior.
If it doesn’t work out with your crush this time, it will work out with someone else. Go about this situationship with that mindset. Don’t be afraid of it not working out.
There are plenty of people out there who will care about you, who will love you, and who won’t leave you constantly guessing how they feel about you. Don’t act like this person who can’t commit and can’t consistently show you how they feel, is the one and only person for you.
#8 STAY BUSY
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When someone sends you mixed signals, it’s easy to overthink everything between you two. You may find your mind wanders to them at inconvenient times. You also may be constantly trying to interpret how they feel about you.
The best thing you can do is to keep yourself occupied. Stay busy and focused on yourself to keep your mind off this person. Staying busy will help you avoid constantly stressing about this person throughout the day.
Spend time with friends. Hang out with family. Explore your passions and interests. Invest more time into your work.
Staying busy and having your priorities in line is attractive and shows you respect yourself. It is also a fantastic distraction from the back and forth nature of a situationship.
#9 PUT A LABEL ON IT OR MOVE ON
The last step to take when someone sends you mixed signals while dating, can be a difficult one. You must decide to put a label on the relationship or move on.
If someone isn’t investing in you and you want a relationship with them, it’s likely time to move on. When they constantly leave you confused, think about whether this is how you want your future partner to make you feel.
If you’d rather be with someone who consistently makes you always feel appreciated and wanted rather than stressed, it could be time to end it. Stop settling for someone who isn’t sure about you. You’re only wasting your own time when you do that.
On the other hand, if the person you’re dating is receptive to your feelings after having an honest conversation, then a relationship may not be out of the question.
If they start investing in you more consistently and stop sending you mixed signals after your conversation, then suggest putting a label on the relationship. If somebody wants to be with you and you want to be with them, commit to each other and put an end to the games.
At some point during dating, you need to decide what you want. If you want a future with this person, you need to be on the same page moving forward.